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Daily Focus - Dressed to Kill

10.26.09| Posted in: Daily Focus| 20 Comments| Rating: -1 Rate Positively Rate Negatively
What did you look like this morning as you began homeschooling your children? Were you still dressed in your pajamas or sweats? Did you prepare yourself as if you were working at an 8 to 5 job, or did you skip the time — consuming effort until later? Busy homeschooling mothers don't always have time to put their best foot forward each day, especially with their appearance. We cheat by putting our hair in a ponytail again and wearing disheveled clothing, as we stand instructing our children in their schoolwork.

Enter to Win AOPs Gigantic Homeschool Giveaway!Can you picture yourself going to school where the teachers looked like they were fit to kill instead of dressed to kill? Wouldn't learning be less attractive and somewhat discouraging to see someone stand before you day after day, not caring about what he looked like? Probably so. So, why do we as homeschooling mothers think we can skip the attention to detail in our appearance before our homeschooled children?

God desires that we do our work to the best of our ability: "And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men" (Colossians 3:23). Our job as homeschoolers should be done "heartily" and not half-heartedly. We need to present both ourselves and the academics we teach in a professional manner that will give glory to God and encourage our children to give their best as well.

Do you know what you are going to wear to your homeschool class tomorrow? Your outfit doesn't have to be the latest fashion, but is it clean, ironed, and honoring to the Lord? Why not take the time to look your best each day to make learning more attractive for you and your child?

Father, help me prepare each day to give homeschooling my best effort. I realize that sloppiness on the outside is a reflection of my attitude on the inside. Remind me to honor You in my appearance each day I teach my children. In Jesus' name, Amen.
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20 Comments on "Dressed to Kill"

A. J
25"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? 26Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life[b]?
28"And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' 32For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." -Matthew 6: 25-34
Posted on: 10.26.08| Rating: -1 Rate Positively Rate Negatively
Lori B
usually, i love these devotionals. very inspiring and thought provoking. but this one, i think, was a bit off the mark. i don't think GOD is dishonored if i snuggle my little ones in our pajamas as we read the bible and begin our quest for knowledge. i think He rejoices that i didn't worry about my face at all and, instead, made them a hot breakfast and talked to them. He doesn't want me rushing about beautifying myself and neglecting the sweet fellowship we can have in the morning because no one has to hurry out the door. i don't look professional in my homeschool classroom, because it is not a professional institution. instead it is a place that a family can be a family and love each other the way they are without all the pretense of the world.
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Victoria G
This was the most offensive piece of garbage I have read in a long time. Whoever wrote it should have taken a step back and asked them self, is this message coming from me, and my personal opinion and beliefs, or is it coming from God?

Surly this did not come from God. It is sexist, offensive, unbiblical and hurtful. The last post quoted the Bible enough on passages covering clothing and spending too much time worrying about it. I thank them. They have saved me some time. I'll just get to what else was offensive about that devotional.

It assumed all home schoolteachers were mothers, women. I am sure there are some men that home school their children as well. No one says anything to a man if he is wearing jeans and a t-shirt. Suddenly Mom needs to make sure she sets the alarm for 6AM to plug in the hot rollers.

Ironed clothes? Really? Who even owns clothes that need ironed these days? My children and my husband-my family is more important to me then ironed clothes. I would rather spend my time with them. That's what wrinkle free fabric is all about. Praise the Lord for guiding the scientist who invented that!

Did I dress like I would for an 8 to 5 job? No, I most certainly did not. Did YOU go into the woods with your children to help them catch a snake for their science class? I did. I couldn't have done that in heels and a pencil skirt. Last week I took them out to find different kinds of edible fungi native to our area. Crawling under fallen trees, wading trough streams and ponds, climbing trees-they are all wonderfully common to us now because we are NOT tied to a classroom. I am NOT tied to an 8 to 5 job and it's 8 to 5 dress code.

When we read about something, we don't just read it; we get up and go find it. They are getting the most complete, hands on education they can get. Something that couldn't happen in a public or private school. It also couldn't happen if I dressed like June Cleaver.

In your devotional you asked Wouldn't learning be less attractive and somewhat discouraging to see someone stand before you day after day, not caring about what he looked like? and answered Probably so. This is your opinion. My children watched me get ready for work every day of their lives until this year. All they wanted and wished for was for me to be able to be home with them. But I had a 9 to 10 job. I wasn't lucky enough to get one of those 8 to 5's. (Not many people in the real world work those hours anymore. That shows just how completely out of touch you really are.)

Now due to some changes in our life, me being too ill to work, but God blessing us with the money for me to be able to stay home, my children's wish has come true. Instead of them only seeing me before school at before they go to bed, I get the privilege of teaching them. Do they care that some mornings I don't have the strength to look like I'm ready to star in a toothpaste commercial? No, they don't. They are a blessing. They are just happy to have me with them. Happy we are together. Happy I am teaching them.

They know that God cares more about what is inside of us, then outside of us. At 4 and 10, they know this, but you don't seem to.

Of course when we go anywhere, they know the importance of looking your best, and putting your best foot forward. Those are life skills. People skills. JOB SKILLS they will need for the future. That is something I do teach them, and something they have been shown their whole life. However, they also know that home is a place of safety and comfort.

My ATTITUDE on the outside is a reflection of my attitude on the inside. Not the fact that I am sitting on the couch reading my children Bible stories in my pajamas. All are Welcomed in our home and our classroom. Not just the best dressed. An attitude I believe Jesus would take as well.
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Judy S
I don't think this was inappropriate at all. Of course, when we are going to the creek to study water quality, pollution, botany, insect life, etc., a nice dress or even a nice sweater and jeans is not appropriate. BUT what I've been convicted of lately is how I look when the Principal comes home - my husband. He's been with professional looking secretaries all day - with makeup, perfume, heels and even pantyhose! Since he's an attorney, he also interacts with female attorneys who look well groomed. It is important that I look nice for my children, but it is ESPECIALLY important that I take the time to put on makeup, spritz on some perfume and look well groomed for my husband. When he leaves in the morning, I want his last image of me to be an attractive one - that's what stays with him all day. When I worked outside the home, I dressed attractively (not provocatively), but nicely, for the workplace and for others. Don't I owe my husband my best? Pajamas, mussed hair & fuzzy slippers are what he sometimes sees, but reading this convicted me to get off my duff and look good for the love of my life. Thanks again for another good devotional, Daily Focus!
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Lynda B
This is an awful story!! Usually these devotionals are uplifting, this one is not.
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Victoria G
Judy Seatrain,

I agree with you completely that it IS important for me to look nice for my husband. Not because he would want me to do my hair and makeup for him, and certainly not because I feel like I need to compete with any other pantyhose wearing women he may work with. I do it because I want to look nice for him. He does the same for me. We may have been together for a decade, but it still feels like the first year. Everything still so shiny and new.

I do my hair and makeup for my husband EVERY day. (Even the days I am in the hospital, I do it before he comes up. I don't own sweats (and I don't condemn those of you who do) I just choose attractive lounge clothing. I'm ill, and some days there is not enough energy to go around, so you choose your battles more carefully those days.

But this devotional wasn't about how we dress for our husbands to keep the spark in our marriage alive. It was about educating our children. It said our slovenly appearance is causing our children to not get the most out of their educational time with us. I do not believe that our casual apparel harms their education. Being comfortable helps you concentrate.

I have many friends who teach in Africa. Sometimes just sitting on a stone floor wearing shorts and flip-flops. Teaching almost naked children:)

My family does deserve my best, but "my best" is different to each of them.

My best to my husband is a faithful wife, loving companion, who is honest, loyal and supportive.

To my children, my best is being mom. Kisser of skinned knees. Remover of bee stingers. Baker of cookies, and healer of broken hearts. (Oops, almost forgot! Catcher of the pet 6 pound rat that knows how to open his own cage door, too.)

As a teacher, I am committed to giving them the best education they can get. My purpose is to help them grow to be strong Christians, and be prepared for the real world.
Posted on: 10.27.08| Rating: 0 Rate Positively Rate Negatively
Amy B
Usually, I enjoy these devotionals; however, today I was very disappointed. I feel the author is biased and skewing God's word. The author should not force his/her ideals onto their readers. It takes away the validity of the devotional and is offensive. I agree with the scriptural references left in the other comments. Furthermore, please do not imply that homeschool mothers who do not dress a certain way are not "giving their best to their children". What sort of message are you wanting us to give our children? I am hoping today is simply an off day. And, I look forward to resuming a God inspiring devotional next time. May God Bless You! :)
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Marlene H
I was not so easily offended. Whether this devotional was inspiring or discouraging to you, please be kind in words, deeds and actions. That is how we love God, our husbands, our children and others. Appearance is an outward expression of the heart. and an action that we need to take more responsibility for.

I don't think today was an off day. I believe it was a valid message. I have homeschooled my children for 17 years and I have been married for 27 years. This is a message that I have needed to hear at times. Over the years, I have realized the importance of taking time to look my best for the day that God has planned. Thank you for this devotional. God has blessed you with grace.
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Laura I
One of the benefits of homeschooling for my family is that we learn in our pajamas if we want to. We have had enough of the rat race of school. At school my sons were judged on their appearance pnly. Not as a human being made in God's image. This left them feeling insecure. By the way, I don't care what 'teachers' at school look like. One of the major perks of homeschooling is that we have the freedom to do it dressed however we want to.
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Kari T
I didn't think this was an article meant to offend. I took it to mean that making the effort to be organized and neat would be helpful on a day to day basis but that doesn't mean that I can't take the day here and there to snuggle with my kids or have a chill out day. THAT is the best part of home schooling.
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Rebecca S
I think we, as women, have enough image issues to worry about. We shouldn't have to worry about looking "attractive" to our children as we teach them in our home. They already love us for who we are. After the negative responses to this email last year, I'm surprised to see it again in my inbox. Hopefully this will be the last time. I like reading DailyFocus emails that are uplifting and address the wonderful, positive reasons why we are home with our kids.
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Cheryl M
I am homeschooling for the first time this year. My son is 13 and has special needs. He is the one who asked me to dress "nice, like a teacher".

I am grateful for the opportunity to be home with him and we have plenty of days when dressing nicely does not work because of field trips or outside activities. However, even though I know God is not judging me, my son expects me to dress like a teacher.

I try to dress like a casual teacher for the glory of God and to let my son know we are doing serious schoolwork in a different manner from his previous school years.

I enjoy the devotional. Thank you for the blessings.

CAM
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Terra K
Blah, Blah, Blah. What the heck? Seriously, this reminds me of the indoctrination that my grandmother described growing up in a strict religious home (I will leave out the name of the church) where they emphasized HOW to put on your makeup, HOW to dress,HOW to behave etc to be a godly woman. If you have a husband who works with women who are all dressed up and you feel the need to compete, then by all means, put those curlers in! But for the rest of us, I think we can figure out when we're slacking off a little too much and need to step it up. I think this article was way over the top. Editors......?
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Yolymar D
I thought it was a good article. I didn't find it offense, on the contrary, I thought it was true. Yes, I do stay in my pajamas many times, but this article made me realize that I should fix myself a little more for my children. I didn't have a problem dressing up for other people at work so why not do it for my children? I probably won't do it al the time but it really makes me want to do it more often. Thanks for the article.
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Lesley B
I couldn't believe what I was reading .....are you serious. Yeah I'm gonna get all gussied up for finger painting, science project, runny little noses mayham....I dont know wheather to laugh or yell. Now I don' t think homeschooling is an excuse for us Mommas to leave the house in what we are in when we are at home...I draw the line, but my kids love that Momma's comfortable and not DISTRACTED my my mascara, or 30 minute curl set hair....now having said that....I do on the days I have the time or get up earlier than everyone else fix up and put on my makeup...which actually saves me from doing it later....but to make an issue out of it.....there are so many other issues to touch on...and pray about......this to me seems like a waste of the devotion that you provide...I honor my LORD with my heart and by following HIS will for my life....besides I never had a well dress teacher......
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Teresa C
I'm sure she is not saying to get dressed in your Sunday best, but we should care to some extent of what we look like and what our husbands prefer. We shouldn't be so quick to get offended. Come on ladies if you have time to sit and write lengthy emails about how you disapprove of this devotional then you may certianly have time to put on nice jeans and a nice shirt and comb your hair. I know I walk around the house like that more than I want to admit but I also feel lazy doing it...I do not want to portray that to my children. Hey, if your going to loaf around the house like that then do it and try not to get so offended when it's brought to your attention. No one said you had to do it, it's really up to you and your comfort level. I actually had to laugh (in a good sense) at this one...I remembered once when I was trying to teach phonics in my husbands boxer shorts in front of the window!!! I was so tired I didn't realize it until my husband pointed out that the neighbors may not appreciate it!!!!! Lighten up ladies....find peace and joy in the Lord. Those who love His word are not easily offended!!
God Bless
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Margaret S
Wow! I am amazed at the negativity in these responses!! And the very un-Christlike attitude to someone simply encouraging us to take a few minutes to put ourselves and our children in a good learning environment.

The scriptures that were posted by AJ are completely irrelevant to what is being discussed. Those scriptures are emphasizing that we should be trusting on God to provide for our needs. They have nothing to do with HOW we dress.

And there is also much research and proof out there that when we are dressed sloppy we listen sloppy and we learn sloppy. Why do you think we are not allowed to wear our sweat pants to work everyday? We are just not as productive! That is NOT to say there is not room for snuggling in our jammies and reading a good book! BOTH have a place in our lives.

I was very grateful for the friendly reminder put here. I have found myself taking less and less time with my appearance until later in the day when my husband comes home. I had not given it thought as to how it was affecting my children's attitudes... If mom is not going to get prepared for school and teaching with seriousness (not stern but putting forth my best effort), then why should we?

Thank you for the good reminder to take a few moments in the morning that can make a world of difference in our day!!

And Thank you Teresa C... well said!
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Crystal M
I loved this post! I needed to hear it. I so often get the I-just-don't-care additude and it shows in more than in just my looks. I never got the impression that this post was to make anyone feel guilty about not looking like a proffesional stereotyped woman who is cold and heartless, but rather the opposite, that I love my kids and want to be beautiful for them. I do it for everyone else, why not for them when they are the most important to me. Besides, I like to look pretty for them. My little 5 year old boy thinks mommy is a real princess when I where perfume. What is wrong with beuty that people take such offence to it. She didn't say there wasn't time for pajamas and cuddling days, just that our additudes should not be complacent. Nor did she remark anything about not being lovable if you wern't all dressed up. It was simply a matter of saying, "I would like to bring a touch of something beautiful into the lives of my children today, since we try to surround them in buaety every other way." And yes, even a cuddle on the couch in pajamas is beautiful. I think she was getting at the additudes in our hearts more than anything. Let's be careful as to not get into gnostic thinking, believing the body is evil, therefore outward looks are evil too. My kids still love me even with messed hair and the same clothes on that I slept in, just as my husband does, but I try to dress up a little better because I love them and they are worth it.
But if I may also add, I am shocked to see some of the comments on here. I would expect to see some curteous negative comments on here, but some of these are visious and uncalled for. Especially if we are considered christian woman. If you did not like the comments, then politely say so. There are others who find great incouragement in these posts.

As for me, I plan to set my alarm in the morning for a change.
Thank for the post!
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Lesley B
Margaret S,
I take offense to your calling some comments un-chirstian like. Frankly it isnt your place to say so...we are what we are wheather you approve of the comments or not. Watch out for the messure you use on others...at least we can be honest about the way this makes us feel...I dont thiink its fair or Christianly for that matter to judge someones comment. I think it is lovely that there are Christian women who are truely beautiful so much inside that it really doesnt matter about what we are wearing or what our hair looks like....no matter what, I have tought my kids that beauty is truely on the inside....and that is what they see and will continue to see...not only in me but others. I hope in the future of commenting.....we will refrain from childish name calling.
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Michelle A
I just started receiving these daily devotionals and unfortunately this was my first one. It totally offended me but I kept a clear mind. The other devotions I have received since and pretty good and on target in my mind. I have read some of the other comments on this and it seems that the ladies who agreed with the comment were mainly thinking about their husband and looking nice for him. I do agree with that statement. That is not what this devotion was saying however, it was saying that our kids will learn better if we are dressed up. I believe they contradicted themselves with the Bible verse they used. I believe dressing to kill is of society not of God and the Bible. My husband repeatedly tells me how much he loves me and so do my kids and they do this whether I am dressed nicely for Church or lounging in my sweats. I have read many devotional books and letters throughout my years and this is the first time that I have ever disagreed with what was written. Thanks for reading.
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