This wasn't the first time my teenage daughter had brought up the topic of boys. Like any normal young woman, she dreamed of the day she would meet Mr. Right!

"Mom," she began, "how am I ever going to meet anyone if we're homeschooling?"

Remembering my own daydreams of meeting someone special who loved only me, I tried to be patient as I answered, "Don't you think God is big enough to bring the right person to you at the right time? If you're supposed to meet someone, homeschooling won't stop God's plan. In fact, it may even help you meet a young man who truly loves and cares for you."

Young girls are constantly bombarded by the media's hype to be loved and wanted, and they envision their prince arriving someday on his white horse to whisk them away to happily ever after. They're encouraged to paint and decorate themselves in the hope of attracting that special someone. However, God's Word has something different to say about attracting someone with only our outward appearance: "Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price" (1 Peter 3:3-4). God wants us to care about the way we look since we are the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19), but the best way for a young girl to make herself truly beautiful is to develop inner character qualities that reflect the beauty of Christ.

As a Christian homeschooling mom, what message are you communicating to your teenage daughter about love? Has your daughter learned to care more about the clothes she wears and the way she does her hair to attract a young man than caring for the things of the Lord (Matthew 6:33)? Have you shown your daughter where to find true love? End her search and point her again to the One who already thinks she is beautiful: Jesus. His love is true, and He will meet every need she has for love.

Father, help me to teach my daughter to listen to Your voice and find the love she's looking for in You. Convict me of anything I'm doing that communicates the wrong message about the true meaning of love. In the name of Jesus, Amen.